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Chosen?

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Some of the greatest pain that we’ll ever have to deal will come from the hurt that is associated with a dysfunctional relationship. Heartbreak doesn’t play favorites and it can come from many different sources. Friends, Family, Co-workers or even people that we admire all leave us vulnerable to pain.

So what do you do when a seemingly ideal partnership begins to feel forced, stale and dishonoring to who you are. Do you stick with it? Do you try to resolve the issues head on or do you simply stay in the relationship because it is predictable?

I recently read an online article in Nia Magazine entitled; Choose Her Everyday or Leave Her Alone. The first line of this beautifully written piece provided the following insight, “I spent 5 years hurting a good woman by staying with her but never fully choosing her.

Take a moment to evaluate the relationships in your life. Are you being chosen on a daily basis. Are your thoughts, dreams and aspirations being respected? Does your partner value your quirks, strengths and imagination? Are you free to be yourself in your relationship or do you find yourself conforming to keep the peace.

Are you being chosen? How does love currently show up in your life?

As individuals we have the right of deciding how we are loved. We have choices.

Do you know your rights? Do you know there is a Personal Bill of Rights that outlines the basic principles for how we can expect to be treated by others? One of my favorite declarations in this document states, “I have the right to change my mind.”

If you find that there are “habitual line-steppers” in your life that are causing you grief, disrupting your peace or those who do not compliment the divine purpose that God has instilled in you, it is okay to change your mind.

As Valentine’s Day approaches give yourself the gift of choice. Be sure to celebrate who your are and make sure that others are celebrating you too!

After you’ve finished reading today’s blog, I invite you check out the podcast. Today I interview my friend and colleague Chantel. Listen in as Chantel tells us all about:

The Trouble With Being a People Pleaser

Find Peace and Be Well!

 

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Who’s in your Circle?

Proverbs 24:6 After all, with the right strategy you can wage war,
            and with many advisers there is victory.

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Surrounding yourself with good people is one of many ways to create peace in your life. When you choose like-minded friends and companions you’re empowering yourself with the gift of “More”! More creativity, more spirituality, more support, more love and more possibilities are just a few of the benefits. There is power in unity but you have to be connected with the right people. As the word says, with the right strategy you can wage war and with many advisers there is victory.

I’ve created a short list of tips that will help you to build a tribe filled with friends who are necessary for your journey through life:

  1. Connect with people who share similar interests as you. Try volunteering at a local non-profit or community event to find people who care about some of the same things that are important to you.
  2. Join a group or organization such as a local book club or bible study group. Conversations about spirituality are a great way to connect with like-minded people.
  3. Get out of the house more! Make it your business to join a gym, take a class or attend local social events to connect with others.

Let’s face it, life is not meant to be lived alone! There is success, peace and power in numbers!

The picture above was taking at the Carolinas Breast House in Charlotte, NC back in December of 2015. When I was diagnosed with breast cancer, I knew that I had to connect with people who understood how I felt and those who were just as determined to live and beat the disease as I was. Pictured are just a few of the people that I have had the privilege of connecting with along my journey.

There is strength in numbers.

After you’ve finished reading the blog post, check out today’s podcast. I interview  a dear friend of mine, Rashida Gittens. Rashida is a domestic abuse survivor and she credits her faith and her support system for helping her to find and realize her self-worth.

I invite you to take a listen as two friends hold a candid conversation about the power of being connected to the right people.

Find Peace and Be Well!

Melissa

 

 

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Recognize

Inspired by Genesis 29:17

Hello Peacemakers! Happy Thursday to you. I hope all is well and things are going great for you this week.

If you recall, I published my first book in November of 2015 entitled, From God, With Love.

This book is a culmination of challenges that I’ve experienced and overcome. I share it with the world as a tool for healing and deliverance. The book is doing well, sells have exceeded anything that I could have hoped for so I want to say thank you to everyone who has made the purchase. To those of you who have not, I invite you to head on over to Amazon.com and download this awesome tool. It’s a quick and relevant read. Right now it is only available as an e-book but be on the look out for the upcoming audio book with the companion study guide.

Today I’m going to share one of my featured poems from my book. The poem is entitled Recognize:

Do you not know? Have you not heard?

God is the final word.

His lasting decree spoken over me

A young woman of radiance, love and beauty.

Established by the power released from His right hand

Unlocked potential to achieve more than most can

For my reach is far greater than many have seen

I’m secure in myself with high self-esteem

My worth is far greater than rubies and gems

I’m talented and confident, I’m liberated from within

Community is important, I encourage those in need

To live a better life and my advice I pray they heed

Live up to your potential and never settle for less than best

Show up for every challenge and deliver nothing less

Offer all you have to give and your dreams will be fulfilled

Build your life on God’s foundation and your future will be sealed

Accept the blessing of His promise and make an oath to live His way

Grasp the beauty in each moment and always seize the day!

Peace and Wellness,

SuGa

 

 

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160 lbs gone!

Hello Friends!

I hope everyone is enjoying this fabulous first week of the new year! I’m coming to you with a special Wednesday dose of SUGA.

If you haven’t had a chance to listen to my latest podcast episode, you honestly don’t want to miss it. I had the pleasure of interviewing my friend Coretta to find out how she transformed her health and achieved an amazing 160lb weight loss.

Her story will inspire you to re-evaluate your health and make a resolution to get well!

Check out her before and after pictures below and click here to listen to her story.

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Peace and Wellness!

 

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Managing Holiday Stress

The Holidays can be a stressful time for many people. The gift obligations, family traditions and financial burden of misguided expectations can wreak havoc on a person’s psyche and budget. If you’re like most of the general population, you haven’t set aside funds for Christmas shopping. The daily responsibilities of life and monthly obligations of mortgage, utilities, groceries and car payments have eaten up most if not all of your available funds.

At some point in time we all have to come to terms with “our” reality. What works for our friends and family may not work the same for us. If we consider the true meaning of Christmas, we can avoid a great deal of stress and overdraft fees! What better time than now to get intentional about managing the financial stress and family traditions of the holidays.

My greatest advice to help you along your journey is to make new traditions and create new memories. One way to avoid excessive spending is to practice the 4 Gift Giving Challenge. 1. Something they want. 2. Something they need. 3. Something to wear and 4. Something to read. You can find out more at: http://moneysavingsisters.com/4-gift-christmas-challenge-want-need-wear-read/

Some other holiday stress triggers include: unhappy memories and past heartbreaks. To this I say create new memories and focus on the love of those that are present with you. Some local inexpensive activities include local holiday parades and Christmas Tree lighting events. You can also check out holiday social gatherings being offered through your county.

Hopefully these tips will give you alternatives to consider in your quest for stress management!

Peace and Wellness

SuGa

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Small Business Saturday

Good Morning Peace Seekers!!

Don’t forget to pick up my eBook entitled From God, With Love available for pre-order on Amazon.com today for only $7.99. From God With Love Image

This book is a unique collection of short stories, prayers and affirmations that I created while dealing with challenging situations throughout my life. I tackle issues of grief, depression, low self-esteem and I show you how to overcome those issues in your life and more! The official release date is December 1, 2015 and I would love to have your support!

And By The Way, my signature webinar, “Creating Your Personal Peace Treaty” is available today only for $49.99! If you’re ready to: live your life with authentic purpose, create your personal brand, discover your hidden talents and live, work and communicate with peaceful intentions, this is the webinar for you!

To Find out More about SUGA Wellness Boutique by joining me for my upcoming Goal Setting and Vision Illumination Workshop happening on January 9, 2016; Charlotte, NC Metro area only

Connect With Me on January 16, 2016 for Sister Empowerment Circle; Charlotte, NC Metro area only. Email me for details!

Peace and Wellness!

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Thankful to the Fullest Measure

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I WISH FOR YOU the happiest Thanksgiving Day that your heart can hold. I pray your day be filled with love, joy and gratitude for those you love and have responsibility over. I hope that you will laugh a little louder, smile a little bigger and love a lot deeper. May your troubles be few and your victories countless. I pray that you are filled to the measure with unspeakable joy.

This year I found the joy that I searched for, for so long. It’s awful that it took divorce and cancer to get me straight but it worked! No longer do I devalue myself or discredit my worth. I’ve completed some pretty deep soul searching and I found out that I am a pretty awesome lady and above that, I’m a survivor!

So this year, I am grateful that I still get to be mommy to my beautiful daughter and auntie to my six nephews. I’m thankful that my two brothers can still call and bug me about nothing. I’m thankful that I can call my mama anytime that I want to and listen to her talk about whatever is on her mind. I’m glad that I can still receive the occasional text message from my grandma and answer when my aunt calls me by the nickname “Luc” (short for Lucy). It’s an awesome feeling to understand that all of this could have worked out differently for me, but I’m still here! I’m still living and I still have the ability to answer when my name is called! But most of all, I’m thankful that Jesus Christ saw fit to intercede on my behalf and heal my body of a disease that has claimed far too many lives.

With all this thankfulness and gratitude, I reach back to the next woman who may be feeling discontent about life and confused by current situations. Whatever you may be experiencing right now is only a bump in the road. There is peace and fulfillment on the other side of hurt and fear.

Don’t lose hope and let me know if I can help.

Peace and Wellness,

SuGa

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2016 Goal Setting Workshop

Are you ready to get intentional about your life? Are you tired of making New Year’s Resolutions that you never fulfill?  If so, join me for my upcoming workshop:

            “Intentional Goal Setting and Vision Illumination for 2016.”

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This is an interactive workshop where I will give you the skills necessary to:

  • Set solid goals for the New Year
  • Ensure that your goals are established in P.E.A.C.E.
  • Create a plan of action to move toward your goals
  • Create a Vision Board to illustrate your goals
  • Hold yourself accountable for goal completion

There are only a few spots remaining for this complimentary workshop. To reserve your space email me today at: sugawellnessboutique@gmail.com

We will meet on Saturday, January 9th from 12:30-3:00.                      Location details will be shared with participants at a later date.

Peace and Wellness!

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From God, With Love

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I am so excited to announce the release of my first e-book, From God, With Love. A Woman’s Guide to Achieving Peace in the Midst of Adversity.

This book is a collection of poems, short stories and declarations that I created while navigating through various challenges in my life. I touch on topics such as grief, low-self esteem and depression; with the hope of giving readers inspiration to overcome those conflicts and crisis situations that we sometimes are forced to deal with.

From God, With Love is available for pre-order on Amazon.com and is available in the following formats: Android, IPad, IPhone, Windows Phone, PC and MAC. Click here to order.

The following is  an excerpt from a featured poem entitled, Another Chance which is inspired by Genesis 4:25 NKJV:

God has appointed another seed just for you

Another hope, another opportunity, another chance to start brand new

For he sees you and considers all the pain that you feel

He heard your cry, he longs for your laugh and he weeps because your issue is real

The issue is sin and it keeps us bound

It cancels out faith and welcomes fear to hang around…

It steals our confidence and keeps us trapped

It muffles our testimony and holds us in lack

It spoils our relations and curses our generations

It keeps us divided and un-united as nations…

But God…

Hopefully I’ve enticed you enough to order the book!

Peace and Wellness!

Melissa

 

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Premeditated Interruptions

We need more interruptions. We need more people who are willing to take an interest in the welfare of others.

When you consider the number of suicides that are happening around the world, interruptions are necessary and needed.  Far too many lives are being cut short from this tragedy. Demitri Allison, a college student at Elon University was found dead outside of a UNC Chapel Hill residence hall. His death has been ruled a suicide. From all accounts his family and friends were worried about his emotional state and well-being. How does a young man with such a promising future end up a suicide statistic? How does someone whom many describe as “talented and loved” end up taking his own life.

Demitri’s life is but one instance of a growing crisis. Suicide has affected many people from various walks of life for differing reasons. Thousands have turned to suicide when they feel there is no other alternative. People use suicide as an escape from bullying, heartbreak, financial problems, health issues, loneliness and guilt, just to name a few. Our society is riddled with people who are in crisis.

According to Save.org, suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the United States, surpassing homicide which is ranked at number 16. Studies show that a suicide is completed every 13 minutes in the United States and it is the 2nd leading cause of death for young adults between ages 15-24.

So how can you help? You can Question, Persuade and Refer.

QPR is a community based training program that teaches those who are in a position to recognize the warning signs, clues and suicidal communications of people in trouble to ACT vigorously to prevent a possible tragedy. This training is available to anyone who wants to be an interruption in the growing problem of suicide.

If you are a professional caregiver, police officer, fireman, minister, priest, rabbi, school nurse, coach, youth leader, paramedic, high school counselor, case manager, volunteer or paid staff in any of a hundred different kinds of human service organizations, you will very likely have firsthand contact with suicidal people.

EVERYONE Needs to Know QPR!

QPR training is offered by the Mental Health Association in your local area at no charge. If you are interested in hosting an event at your church, club or organization, send me an email and I will help you set up a workshop at your facility. (sugawellnessboutique@gmail.com) If you or someone who you know needs immediate help, please call 911 or contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

Be the interruption in someone’s life by recognizing the warning signs that someone may be contemplating suicide

Peace and Wellness,

SuGa