If the definition of worrying is using your imagination to create something you don’t want, what is the definition of manifesting?
It is extremely easy to waste time worry about things that you do not want in your life. Troubled relationships, career challenges and financial setbacks are just a few issues that can have your thoughts wondering aimlessly out of control.
Several years ago, as I experienced several major crises simultaneously, I often worried if I would survive it all.
First there was the divorce. It was hard and I was stressed. How would I survive, how would it affect my daughter, how would dating and relationships look for me afterwards and how would others perceive my choice? That 12 months of required separation in the state of NC was difficult.
I worried myself to the point of being unhealthy. I was stressed, consistently anxious, not sleeping well, over-weight and extremely unhappy with myself. Just when I thought things were about to get better, the cancer diagnosis appeared.
The week of my divorce hearing, I took time off of work to spring clean my home. I was ready for new beginnings and a fresh start. I wanted so badly to cleanse myself of the constant turmoil and self-imposed worrying. I had my first mammogram, which lead to a callback and subsequently to the diagnosis.
Up until the point of getting married, I was fairly consistent with my physical and nutritional health. Marriage added a level of stress in my life that I wasn’t fully prepared for.
How could this be?
On my last day of radiation treatment, I lost my job and the constant worry continued.
What now & What next?
I share part of my story today because this week marks my 8-year survival story!
I am surviving and thriving. 8 years post-divorce & post-cancer
My journey hasn’t been the easiest, and there have definitely been a few setbacks. What I’ve learned along the way is to focus my time, energy and attention toward the things that I actually want for my life.
I am spending less time focused on things that do not bring me peace, joy or purpose. This involves understanding and owning my values and taking intentional action to reset my personal expectations. It takes discipline to train your mind to focus on manifesting and not worrying.
Many of the traditional methods that are talked about for stress reduction and developing discipline actually work if you work them to your advantage.
Journaling is great for getting your thoughts and concerns out of your head and down on paper so that you can create a strategy to effectively manage your challenges. I recently saw a post on Instagram that says, “If you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself. I couldn’t agree more”. Get those thoughts out of your mind and create peace within!
Exercising is a great way to re-direct your energy and improve your ability to do everyday activities. Imagine the heightened sense of awareness you can generate from a little physical movement.
Understanding earth’s elements are a non-traditional method of dealing with stress and redirecting your thoughts from worry to manifest. The elements are air, water, fire, earth and space. Find the element that speaks to you intently. I personally feel most relaxed by varying bodies of water. The crashing sound of ocean waves, or the stillness of a calming lake are both great at helping me to relax and find peace.
For my present and future, I am manifesting an everyday life that is filled with reciprocal love, amazing opportunities, genuine friendships, harmonious family interactions and all the blessings that God has planned and purposed for me.
On June 2, 2015, I had surgery to remove the cancer tumors from my body and on June 4, 2018, I re-entered the workforce with new skills and a highly viable career path. Origins of Peace exist today because of the multiple challenges that I experienced in 2015.
Dating and relationships in this survivor era offer the biggest area of opportunity for me. I’ve come close to manifesting the relationship that I desire, but nothing has panned out completely as of yet. Stay tuned for future posts to see how that plays out. I am hopeful.
What am I manifesting for this area of my life?
A love that is never selfish, always of service, and precisely on purpose.
From My Mouth to God’s ears
My definition for manifesting is to demonstrate the things that I desire in life prior to actually obtaining them. This is easier said than done, but it is possible, and I am actively doing it.
As I celebrate 8 years of surviving and thriving, I choose to demonstrate good health, love and understanding, progressiveness and forward thinking, spiritual fortitude, and all the desires of my heart while God continues to add blessing upon blessing to my life.
My prayer is that you will change the narrative that you repeat to yourself. May your thoughts of worry turn to offerings of praise and gratitude.
Peace & Blessings to you!
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There’s something new and exciting happening at Origins of Peace, LLC.
We’re introducing Intentional Gatherings by Origins of Peace, in an effort to unite small groups of like-minded people with the intention of building community and friendship while supporting a worth-while cause.
Our first event takes place on Sunday, February 12th with a trip to the Mint Museum in Uptown Charlotte and Brunch at a local restaurant. If you are a lover of art and food, this event is perfect for you.
Our purpose is to raise funds for our non-profit sector, Heal, Recover, Grow Inc., where we support survivors of divorce, chronic unemployment and breast cancer by providing tools and resources to live a confident and empowered life after tragedy.
The cost of this gathering is $40, which includes admission to the Mint, including a timed visit to the Picasso Exhibit ($25), donation to Heal, Recover Grow Inc. ($15) and the collective company of a great group of soon to be friends. Tickets will be sent from Origins of Peace, upon purchase.
The cost of brunch is not included.
Secure your space asap, tickets are going fast.
This Intentional Gathering is limited to 10 people.
Secure your space and make your contribution by clicking the link below.
On Saturday October 22, 2022, at 7:30am we are excited to welcome our Charlotte Community together for our inaugural A Princess’s Closet 5K Race Edition. Whether you are a seasoned runner, someone that is just getting started or someone that prefers walking; we invite you to register for a brisk morning run.
This race is geared for families to come together and cultivate community, contribute to their health and wellness and fellowship with other families in the Charlotte Metro area. All are welcome on this fun, fast and flat course on October 22, 2022. Register using the link below.
Every breast cancer Survivor needs a support circle. It’s time to find yours.
Your circle should be filled with those who are rooting for you when you feel down, who sit with you when you don’t feel well and who push you when you fail to show up as your best self. A breast cancer Survivor is already powerful – but when survivors who are determined to thrive become a collective, great things always happen.
Are you a woman who has survived breast cancer?
Are you ready to find and connect with your sister support circle?
Do you find it challenging to get genuine support and find people who can empathize with you?
Are you ready to offer the support that you are desperately in need of?
If you can relate to any of the questions above, join us for the Sister Support Circle. This exclusive event is especially for woman breast cancer Survivors to unite through a common bond, gain support from other Survivors, and foster a life-long support network.
Mark Your Calendar for the following dates:
There is a $100 dollar investment to join. Sponsorship opportunities are available.
You can expect to experience the following:
Become an empowered survivor
Gain empathy and support from like-minded sisters
Increase your happiness and awareness
Find a safe space to share your thoughts
Regain your confidence
Make lasting friendships
Improve your sense of belonging
The Sister Support Circle only has 5 openings in 2022. Sign up now to reserve your spot.
Upon registration you will receive a welcome kit and next steps on how to join the circle.
Your welcome kit includes the following key items as well as other essentials to celebrate your arrival into the circle.
Manifesting your Intentions Journal
Herbal TEA Variety Pack
Weekly Affirmation Cards
Instructions on how to make the most of each week and attract the support you need from the circle
Do you know a Survivor? If so, you can…
Sponsor a sister in need. You can Sponsor a woman to join this unique circle.
Give her the gift of inclusion and belonging by financially supporting a survivor who would enjoy this opportunity to grow.
A portion of the proceeds will be donated to Heal Recover Grow Incorporated, a non-profit agency dedicated to assist women who have experienced breast cancer, job loss or divorce re-engage in society as skillful, confident and empowered citizens by offering, self-improvement opportunities, skills development classes and mentoring relationships.
It has taken me a few days to compose this post. I’ve started and stopped numerous times, overwhelmed by the emotional burden that has presented itself with the loss of Mr. Chadwick Boseman.
I am seriously grieving this man and the loss of his life. I didn’t know him personally but I know a cancer diagnosis personally and watching my uncle rapidly decline from colon cancer, I’ve felt that journey, and it’s a hard one.
To reflect on the many accomplishments of Mr. Boseman in spite of his diagnosis is an absolute honor. cancer has a way of making you feel small, fearful, inadequate, weak and incapable. Five years after my diagnosis and I still struggle with the anxiety of it all.
I commend Mr. Boseman for living out loud and giving black people something to believe in and to strive for, through his many roles. Tonight I watched Black Panther along with much of the nation. I’ve seen it a few times before, but tonight I watched with pride and reverence. I appreciated the land and the waterfalls, the sunsets and all the imagery that make that movie spectacular! Wakanda means possibility to me and Wakanda Forever means “Oh the Possibilities!” https://youtu.be/r8nxdAGg2FY
Tonight I was reminded to show up even when I do not feel like it, stop over-thinking and serve my purpose.
I pray that we all learn to live out loud in the possibilities.
“To him who is able to keep you from stumbling and to present you before his glorious presence without fault and with great joy— to the only God our Savior be glory, majesty, power and authority, through Jesus Christ our Lord, before all ages, now and forevermore! Amen”. Jude 1:24-25
When the Call to Action went out to support a sister in the midst of her journey with breast cancer, I felt compelled to respond. It’s not everyday that the opportunity arises to offer support on a personal basis.
Being a breast cancer survivor who’s currently in her 5th year of survival, I understand that everyday choices are a huge part of the recovery process. I decided to gift this beautiful sister with the Planter pictured above in hopes that it would help to boost her mood during these trying times and also add a little peace to her space.
I remember the fear and uncertainty that I felt during my journey, but I also remember the love and acts of kindness that were shown to me during that time. I remember the visits, phone calls and texts. I remember the Banana Pudding Cake from my Sister in Law Lanita and I remember the beautiful Orchid from my Nephew Nicholas.
My hope is that my simple act of kindness will also be remembered as a simple act of love.💖
To this Sister I pray for Peace and Total Healing. ✨
There are numerous situations that can present themselves as crisis in our life. When the threat of crisis arrives, we have a tendency to start over-thinking, over-evaluating, playing the “what if” game and soliciting a lot of detrimental advice.
3 ways to recognize if fear is driving your decision:
If your decision is based on fear of the unknown.
If your decision is based on fear of judgment.
If your decision is based on lack of resources.
All of those situations can be scary and difficult to navigate if you can’t find a way to get out of your own head and make a plan for clear, objective decision-making.
October 2015 was a really tough time for me. I was faced with the reality that my nice paying, great benefit having job was being eliminated. It couldn’t have come at a worse time because I was going through cancer treatments, I was exhausted from radiation and I could not think clearly. I had the options of either taking a separation package or applying for a new job in another part of the organization. I was too exhausted to put a resume together or even apply for another position. I made the choice to leave the company. I figured this was God’s way of telling me that things needed to change in my life and that he had other plans for me. Several months into my choice, things went bad. I realized that I didn’t have a solid plan for how I would sustain my lifestyle and incorporate this new lifestyle of being a cancer survivor.
Because I made a huge choice during a time of crisis and failed to have a sustainable plan of survival; lack, doubt, self-criticism and fear-based thinking and decision-making crept in.
I’ll update you at a later time on how things have progressed in my life since then. That’s a whole different topic, but for now I want you to use the follow nugget when making major life decisions.
Own Your Choice.
You have to completely and unapologetically own your decisions. If that means asking for help, ask. If that means hiring help..hire some help! Do whatever you have to do to make a well-informed plan. You have one life to live and it’s not being lived in reverse. If things go south, course correct, think differently and make a different choice.
This year, I registered for the Komen Race for the Cure because I want to make an impact in the fight against breast cancer. I was diagnosed in April of this year and because of prayer, early detection, top notch treatment and a fabulous medical team, I am a Survivor!
Please consider making a tax-deductible donation today in support of my fundraising efforts. Any amount is appreciated and no amount is too small.
You can donate online with your credit card by copying and pasting the link below into your web browser.
Your support helps us get one step closer to a world without breast cancer. 75 percent of the money raised through the Race stays in the community to fund local breast cancer education, screening and treatment programs. The remaining 25 percent supports groundbreaking breast cancer research.
Together, we are fueling the best science, boldest community and biggest impact in the fight against breast cancer. And we will not stop until this disease is gone forever. That’s our promise. Will you please join me in this fight by making a donation today?